I've been told in the past that I can be bossy, dismissive and b*itchy.
While I didn't completely agree at the time, I decided to pay closer attention to the words I chose and how those words came out of my mouth.
I even went so far as to record myself so I could hear whet the other person was hearing.
And dang, if they weren't right (sometimes)! 🕵️♀️ I'm now able to 'hear' myself in the moment better and often recognize when Witchy Amalia is in the house. And when I do, I immediately apologize and clarify what was intended.
I feel better and the other person feels better.
Other times, it's not even about what we said or how we said it, it's based more on the other person's wounds. Those places deep inside of them that have been hurt, abandoned or rejected. They feel like they're not enough and go straight into their pain.
💥 What was in the reality of the moment a seemingly small thing turns into an explosive reaction because all the pain and hurt from likely a lifetime has now come roaring to the surface.
If you're able to recognize what may have been said or how it was received by the other person and put yourself in their position, perhaps you'll find a bit of compassion there for you and them and be from there find a path to peace... And who knows, maybe even add a brick to the foundation of an even more solid relationship.
We learn from one another. Xo