INTERMISSION™: Compassionate Expression
While I didn't completely agree at the time, I decided to pay closer attention to the words I chose and how those words came out of my mouth.
I even went so far as to record myself so I could hear whet the other person was hearing.
And dang, if they weren't right (sometimes)! 🕵️♀️ I'm now able to 'hear' myself in the moment better and often recognize when Witchy Amalia is in the house. And when I do, I immediately apologize and clarify what was intended.
I feel better and the other person feels better.
Other times, it's not even about what we said or how we said it, it's based more on the other person's wounds. Those places deep inside of them that have been hurt, abandoned or rejected. They feel like they're not enough and go straight into their pain.
💥 What was in the reality of the moment a seemingly small thing turns into an explosive reaction because all the pain and hurt from likely a lifetime has now come roaring to the surface.
If you're able to recognize what may have been said or how it was received by the other person and put yourself in their position, perhaps you'll find a bit of compassion there for you and them and be from there find a path to peace... And who knows, maybe even add a brick to the foundation of an even more solid relationship.
We learn from one another. Xo
INTERMISSION™: Relationship with Yourself First
You know what I mean? 🤔
I'd love to hear what you think of them and if there's anything else you'd like for me to talk about in the future...
We learn from one another! Xo
INTERMISSION™: Respond Instead of Reacting
How many of you tend to launch a defensive attack when you feel someone has wronged you? ✋ Um, yeah. Me too.
It was very much a part life when my marriage was falling apart.
He would say or do something that I perceived as an attack or caused pain within me and I'd react immediately from that place of pain which then led to a bigger conflict that was often left unresolved.
Had I taken a moment to breathe and look at WHY I was feeling what I was feeling and RESPOND from that place instead of reacting, I'd likely have seen that oftentimes it had little to do with him and more to do with a wound within me that needed some love and attention.
If we're able to see that relationships are our mirrors and make a conscious choice to take responsibility for how we respond in those moments when we're emotionally stirred up, we'd likely not escalate a small disagreement into an all out war! 🤯
Give it a try next time someone upsets you.
See if you're able to take a breath and respond instead of reacting from a place of pain inside yourself.
You may be pleasantly surprised how empowering it feels to change the pattern.
Let me know how it goes... We learn from one another. Xo
INTERMISSION™: Embrace the High & Low
Past couple days have been spent talking about low vibe emotions like blame, shame, fear and worry.
🥺 We don't like those.
We run from those. 🏃
📺 We look for an escape route like Netflix, alcohol or drugs.
They are uncomfortable and create an imbalance within us.
⚛️ Let's play the WHAT IF Game.... What if we thought of them as a little nudge from a friend reminding us there's a part of us that needs some attention?
What if these emotions are showing up to guide us to a beautiful golden path that we would have otherwise missed if we were skipping along the well worn one?
What if leaned into the feelings of unease to learn why the feelings are there and radically accept them?
Who knows...we may learn something new about ourselves which allows us to make a different choice ultimately supporting our growth and evolution.
That sounds pretty amazing to me.
What do you think? 🏵️
What if during those times of stress and anxiety, we pause.
Take a deep breath. Maybe a few.
Recall a #F*ckYeahDay and really feel it...like you're right back there! (Big smile at the ready!)
And say either to yourself or out loud: I radically accept where I am right now.
Say it three times to really lock it in. And do this as often as needed in the day without judgment.
You'll be amazed how the energy will shift and things will unfold.
We learn from one another....
INTERMISSION™: The Blame Game
Raise your 🖐️ if you've ever participated in The Blame Game!
It's easy to play and before you know it, you're fired up and ready to rumble.
In David Hawkins book, Letting Go, he talks about blame being "the world's greatest excuse. It enables us to remain limited and small without feeling guilty. But there is a cost - the loss of our freedom." What does he mean by that?
Taking on the role of the victim whereby the other person is to blame robs you of your power... Your power to choose another approach or perspective and your power to move beyond the limiting beliefs that someone has to be to blame in the first place.
View this interaction, this moment where you're feeling victimized or triggered to go within. To see what's happening within you. 👀 Take a few breaths and ask yourself:
What am I feeling?
Why is this coming up?
Can I let this go?
You'll learn a lot and if you're able to let it go, you may save yourself some serious emotional energy that can be used elsewhere for some fun perhaps. ⚡
If you'd like to lean into Emotions a bit more, the
INTERMISSION™ Journal page bundle is ready for your journaling pleasure at KarmicKindness.com on the blog!
Stay tuned for more emotional real talk and please share with someone you love... We learn from one another.
INTERMISSION™: Taking 100% Responsibility
This may be a tough one for some of you...
Particularly if you're in a relationship whether it's romantic, friendly or professional where you feel someone is taking advantage of you or you're looking to him/her to give you a sense of peace or wholeness or security.
Most of us think of relationships as 50/50 propositions.
But Gay Hendricks says otherwise in his book The Big Leap.
You are 💯% responsible and they are 💯% responsible.
You might ask..."How the 'f' does that work because that adds up to 200%?" Well, that's because it's not about them.
It's about you.
You knowing that you have all you need within you already. That no person can "make" you feel whole or in some cases inadequate or secure.
It's knowing that you are perfect in your imperfection and are 100% okay with that.
That doesn't mean you don't take responsibility for your words or actions. It means that you don't NEED another person to say or do anything to create a feeling of peace within you.
Because you always have it. It's always there.
You simply need to access it.
And you access it by getting radically honest with yourself and then radically accepting yourself.
From this place you access that peaceful place withing and can take action that's in alignment with who you truly are and what you truly desire for yourself.
Would love to hear about a time in your life when you were radically honest and what you learned.
Remember we learn from one another.
INTERMISSION™: Take the Leap & Flower Friday
If you missed it, especially if you're currently in conflict regarding a present day relationship, please check it out and grab the insight sheets bundle at KarmicKindness.com on my blog!
Today is all about planting the 🌱 seed of intention for a new life. It may be one on your won or perhaps a newer, better version of your current partnership.
Either way, now is the time. There's no better time.
And the @lotuswei Flower Evolution Card Deck supports the collective energy on this path! 🌸 The Flower Friday card:
(Info from card)
Night Blooming Cereus
Dissolves: negativity, self-limitations, old habits & patterns
Magnifies: Courage to take great leaps to reach full potential, realization of true gifts and how to expand them
Message: Take the Leap!
Buckle your seat belt...it's about to get real... Fun! 💯
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#healing #newdirection #energy #loa
INTERMISSION™: Relationship Questions...looking for a direction
If you're just now discovering these insight sheets, please do the first two sets first. They follow a specific order for a better sense of clarity and relationship understanding.
And we are in the home stretch of the relationship series with Soulful Life: Relationships - Where We Are Going
Download the PDF...can fill it in digitally or print. (Printing on both sides recommended to give Mother Earth a little love!)