We to Me Series #1: Begin Again
What Do Need, Dependency & Control Have To Do With Love?
I realized that my attempts of being in control, in my relationships in particular, were actually part of the reason they broke down in the end. Obviously, there’s more to it than that, but I now realize that it was part of the problem.
It was essentially control in the name of love. I am controlling you because I love you. I want you to do or be something else than who are right now because it doesn’t suit me.
I found I became dependent on the actions of others to fill me up. I needed them to behave a certain way. Without their compliance I didn’t feel loved.
“Love without consciousness becomes need, dependency and control.”