This week our focus is on how we COMMUNICATE!Communication is a biggie and a time for radical honesty.
INTERMISSION™: Respond Instead of Reacting
How many of you tend to launch a defensive attack when you feel someone has wronged you? ✋ Um, yeah. Me too.
It was very much a part life when my marriage was falling apart.
He would say or do something that I perceived as an attack or caused pain within me and I'd react immediately from that place of pain which then led to a bigger conflict that was often left unresolved.
Had I taken a moment to breathe and look at WHY I was feeling what I was feeling and RESPOND from that place instead of reacting, I'd likely have seen that oftentimes it had little to do with him and more to do with a wound within me that needed some love and attention.
If we're able to see that relationships are our mirrors and make a conscious choice to take responsibility for how we respond in those moments when we're emotionally stirred up, we'd likely not escalate a small disagreement into an all out war! 🤯
Give it a try next time someone upsets you.
See if you're able to take a breath and respond instead of reacting from a place of pain inside yourself.
You may be pleasantly surprised how empowering it feels to change the pattern.
Let me know how it goes... We learn from one another. Xo
INTERMISSION™: Taking 100% Responsibility
This may be a tough one for some of you...
Particularly if you're in a relationship whether it's romantic, friendly or professional where you feel someone is taking advantage of you or you're looking to him/her to give you a sense of peace or wholeness or security.
Most of us think of relationships as 50/50 propositions.
But Gay Hendricks says otherwise in his book The Big Leap.
You are 💯% responsible and they are 💯% responsible.
You might ask..."How the 'f' does that work because that adds up to 200%?" Well, that's because it's not about them.
It's about you.
You knowing that you have all you need within you already. That no person can "make" you feel whole or in some cases inadequate or secure.
It's knowing that you are perfect in your imperfection and are 100% okay with that.
That doesn't mean you don't take responsibility for your words or actions. It means that you don't NEED another person to say or do anything to create a feeling of peace within you.
Because you always have it. It's always there.
You simply need to access it.
And you access it by getting radically honest with yourself and then radically accepting yourself.
From this place you access that peaceful place withing and can take action that's in alignment with who you truly are and what you truly desire for yourself.
Would love to hear about a time in your life when you were radically honest and what you learned.
Remember we learn from one another.
INTERMISSION™: Relationship Questions...looking for a direction
If you're just now discovering these insight sheets, please do the first two sets first. They follow a specific order for a better sense of clarity and relationship understanding.
And we are in the home stretch of the relationship series with Soulful Life: Relationships - Where We Are Going
Download the PDF...can fill it in digitally or print. (Printing on both sides recommended to give Mother Earth a little love!)
INTERMISSION™: Journal Pages (Week 5)
Holy Guacamole...Week 5 is on deck!
Click HERE for your INTERMISSION: Week 5 bundle.
INTERMISSION™: Gifts from the Past
I shared a book...theme this week apparently ☺️...from my dad.
We knew he loved us but he wasn't very demonstrative or verbal with his feelings.
So when he gave you something, it was a pretty big deal. 🎁
He gave me a book after a dance performance in first grade. And it meant the world to me.
I've carried with me all these years not because it's monetarily valuable but because it's value goes far beyond that.
It carries memories and love and his handwriting which I've always loved. 💖
It's priceless and irreplaceable.
Do you still have any gifts from your childhood? Items that you've packed and unpacked or stored away all these years?
What are they?
Why are they special?
INTERMISSION™: Relationship Questions...back to the beginning
Warning: Lots of time and togetherness may lead to feelings of discontent and unhappiness.
This may be due to pandemic stress.
OR it may be highlighting what you've been feeling for awhile and were able to push aside with distractions like work, happy hours, going to the gym, etc. 🤔 If you're not sure exactly where your relationship stands, I can relate.
I was you.
And it can be scary to even consider looking more deeply at your relationship because there's a chance that it may mean the end of it.
Don't worry. I've got you. And we're going to do this together.
💫 Step 1 is print or electronically fill out the Soulful Life: Relationships - Where We Began insight sheets.
INTERMISSION™: Believe in High Vibes
I created a Soulful Life: High Vibes Playlist just for you on Spotify!
📻 Check it out
KarmicKindness | Amalia
Message for today is:
💫 BELIEVE 💫
from the gorgeous @crazysexykris Crazy Sexy Love Notes card deck!
She is a high vibe kinda gal always smiling and bringing brightness to the world! She posts informative & super fun stuff! Check her out if you don't know her already!
Believe in the magic that surrounds you and live in alignment with your dreams.
INTERMISSION™: 3 Stoic Philosophies for Inner Peace & Acceptance
1️⃣ View everything as an opportunity.
"The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way."
2️⃣ Live in the moment with gratitude.
"You could leave right now. Let that determine what you do and day and think."
"Let us prepare our minds as if we'd come to the very end if life. Let us postpone nothing. Let us balance life's books each day... The one who puts the finishing touches in their life each day is never short of time."